2020 Wedding Resolutions: Trends That Need to Go
In the past decade, we’ve seen countless TV shows, movies, and news coverage of weddings. Some trends tend to keep popping up and they’re not as great as the media portrays. For example, the Bridezilla concept should be over and done with and never to be revisited again. Weddings should be blissful and harmonious regardless of its size.
With that said, here are wedding trends that should stay in the past and never cycled again:
1. Adding expensive gifts on the register.
Unless you’re part of the extremely wealthy 1% with billionaire guests, stop adding expensive gifts on your registry. You know very well that no one will buy that and if someone did, it’s probably a wealthy aunt who really loves you.
The reason why I feel that this trend should go is because it makes your guests feel pressured to spend more than they can just to attend your wedding. Instead, you may want to add a note on your invitation about appreciating gifts in cash if they don’t want to use the registry (Note that asking for money is not tacky at all and is encouraged my many guests these days.)
2. Micromanaging guests.
Recently, there were some reports of guests falling out with couples who are about to get married due to the overwhelming demands on the guests. One instance included a bride who asked the entourage to buy luxury goods for entertainment purposes rather than fashion. Unfortunately, the guests did not want to spend that much on something they will never wear again.
Other examples of micromanaging guests is being too strict on the dress code. If someone does not have an outfit, ask them to contact you before the wedding so you can help them solve the problem. It is also inappropriate to ask guests to learn strict table etiquette like using the right fork and so on. Your wedding is about celebrating your marriage. Try to help your guests enjoy the event so that you can rest easy and feel good the entire day.
3. Inviting more than a dozen people to remote locations.
Yes, mountain tops are beautiful. Marrying in Antarctica would be extraordinary. Going to an island in the Pacific to marry your love is divine. However, if you really want to go there, don’t force one hundred people to come with you. Not everyone can afford to go where you want them to and some may feel obligated because you sent an invite.
If you decide to get married in a unique and difficult-to-reach location, talk to your guests before sending an official invite. Let them know that they are welcome, but they should think carefully about it so that they won’t be burdened by the travel plans. Even if you plan on paying for everything, the hassle of bringing that many people will be a much bigger pain that you could imagine.
4. Not checking the emcee’s script.
I have been to several weddings this year and three of them had the same emcee. Because of the first two, I memorized the program word for word. If you must micromanage, please do it with the emcee because if they use the same script with a guest like me, I may not enjoy your wedding. You do not have to write the script for them; however, you should ask them to create a brand-new script for your wedding. And another thing…
5. Having the same wedding program as everyone else.
While the other emcees I encountered had different scripts, they all had the same programs for the bride. It goes like this: Cocktail announcement, couple’s entrance, speeches and toasts, an impromptu dance by the bridesmaids and groomsmen (I danced twice), and a game that usually consists of something that inadvertently makes you touch a person’s… Save that last one for the bachelorette party, please.
The reason why this happens is because some of the organizers in one city attend the same seminars, training sessions, and retreats for their craft. Most of them even follow and subscribe to the same magazines and blogs. If you feel like your wedding program is similar to several others’, try to collaborate with the organizer to develop a different, unique, and familiar wedding program that everyone you know will enjoy.
6. Wearing your childhood wedding dream dress or re-purposing your mother’s wedding dress.
Depending on your age, I would say that the wedding dress in your scrapbook isn’t really in style anymore. However, because of the sentimentality, some brides will indeed have their childhood dream dress made by designers.
Almost everybody chooses a beautiful dress, but as a child, you didn’t know if the dress would be best for your silhouette. Now that you’re all grown up, you should check to see if there is a wedding dress that will look more gorgeous on you than your childhood dream dress.
As for your mother’s dress, I am more concerned about the item than the sentimentality behind it. Your family may have suggested it, but it would be better to keep the dress as a keepsake instead of cutting it down to scratch and redoing it. It can be heartbreaking to discover that the fabric can no longer be reused or that the atelier cannot refashion the dress after it has been deconstructed. There are exceptions, though. If the dress fits and it is period appropriate, then by all means get it dry-cleaned.
Instead of reusing an old wedding dress, why not clean it archive it and add a new dress to your family’s collection. Here are some suggestions from Mikaella Bridal:
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